Expensive Dave,
My husband and I dwell in India. I’m from the States, and he was born right here. With regards to our funds, I handle our American investments, and he manages our Indian investments. Each month, we sit down with spreadsheets and go over our funds. I belief him utterly, however I’d like to raised perceive our investments right here and the way they work. Ought to I simply defer to his judgment, or ought to I study to know issues somewhat higher?
Anna
Expensive Anna,
I all the time inform of us to ensure they utterly perceive their investments and the way they work. So, there’s completely nothing incorrect with studying extra in regards to the aspect of your investments he manages.
I discovered a very long time in the past that once you’re married and it comes to creating choices, it is best to use all your mind. Which means each of you. Two heads are higher than one, proper? Again after I made all my errors with cash and we went broke, I didn’t hearken to anybody about something. I believed I knew all of it. We had investments and owned items of property my spouse by no means knew about or laid eyes on.
When it got here to our funds, she all the time trusted me and instructed me to do what I believed was finest. Effectively, it seems, I used to be an fool. If I’d had an oz of sense or humility again then, I’d have gone to her with my all my vivid concepts. Figuring out her ideas or listening to her say, “I don’t learn about that, honey. I’ve received a foul feeling about it” would possibly’ve saved us lots of ache and heartache — if I’d listened. However now, I perceive like by no means earlier than the that means of Proverbs 31:10-12. “Who can discover a virtuous spouse? For her value is above rubies. The center of her husband safely trusts her; so he may have no lack of acquire” (NKJV).
I’m certain your husband is lot smarter about issues than I used to be. And he’s clearly open to speaking with you about all this and displaying you issues. That’s a very good signal. But when I have been him, and one thing have been to occur, I’d need you to know all the pieces. I’d need you to know precisely what you could have happening and the way it all works.
Nice query, Anna!
— Dave
